Comments on: The Right to Say No http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 01:42:43 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: RT http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2657 RT Sun, 08 Mar 2009 14:48:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2657 Are your quotes from the original Boundaries book? Because I know there's a Boundaries for Kids (or something to that tune). Let me know--I find this series incredibly helpful. My first read was when I was a newlywed, 450 miles away from my parents. I still needed boundaries! Are your quotes from the original Boundaries book? Because I know there’s a Boundaries for Kids (or something to that tune). Let me know–I find this series incredibly helpful. My first read was when I was a newlywed, 450 miles away from my parents. I still needed boundaries!

]]> By: Jackie @ Our Moments Our Memories http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2656 Jackie @ Our Moments Our Memories Thu, 05 Mar 2009 05:44:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2656 I just found this book at Goodwill but haven't started it yet. And now that I read your (amazing!) post, I can clearly see that I've done some things wrong. I know she's little still, and I have time to change, but it's really sobering to think that the things we are doing right now will affect how our kids react in the future. I just found this book at Goodwill but haven’t started it yet. And now that I read your (amazing!) post, I can clearly see that I’ve done some things wrong. I know she’s little still, and I have time to change, but it’s really sobering to think that the things we are doing right now will affect how our kids react in the future.

]]> By: Kendra http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2655 Kendra Wed, 04 Mar 2009 20:23:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2655 I'm adding this book to my mom reading list. It's tough thinking that what I'm doing now will impact him as a teen and adult. It's quite frightening! But this book is exactly what we need right now in this stage of the game. Thanks for the recommendation! I’m adding this book to my mom reading list. It’s tough thinking that what I’m doing now will impact him as a teen and adult. It’s quite frightening! But this book is exactly what we need right now in this stage of the game. Thanks for the recommendation!

]]> By: Lindsay Mast http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2654 Lindsay Mast Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:16:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2654 That is powerful stuff, Moriah. Boundaries was on my list for a Bible book study in my home this winter. It got beat out by "Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World," but I know Boundaries needs to be next on my personal reading list. Thanks for posting this--it makes me think. I take this job very seriously, and alternately wonder if I am being too lenient and too hard on my kids. So, some reading is in order. That is powerful stuff, Moriah. Boundaries was on my list for a Bible book study in my home this winter. It got beat out by “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World,” but I know Boundaries needs to be next on my personal reading list. Thanks for posting this–it makes me think. I take this job very seriously, and alternately wonder if I am being too lenient and too hard on my kids. So, some reading is in order.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2653 Lisa Wed, 04 Mar 2009 13:20:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2653 I totally agree with Vintage Dutch Girl. I don't like thinking about how my parenting today affects my kids when they are not just teens, but adults! I've said more than once that I don't want to screw them up! Thankfully, we have a God FULL of grace. I've read some of that book, thanks for the good post! I totally agree with Vintage Dutch Girl. I don’t like thinking about how my parenting today affects my kids when they are not just teens, but adults! I’ve said more than once that I don’t want to screw them up! Thankfully, we have a God FULL of grace. I’ve read some of that book, thanks for the good post!

]]> By: Vintage Dutch Girl http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2652 Vintage Dutch Girl Wed, 04 Mar 2009 04:10:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2652 Whoa. That's intense...I guess I've been rather stuck in the here and now and not thinking about how my parenting today affects my kiddos when they are (gulp) teens. <br/><br/>Hmmm....me thinks its time to start reading... Whoa. That’s intense…I guess I’ve been rather stuck in the here and now and not thinking about how my parenting today affects my kiddos when they are (gulp) teens.

Hmmm….me thinks its time to start reading…

]]> By: Mamacita http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2651 Mamacita Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:12:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2651 These are good thoughts. I faced the 6 year old version last night with the request to take a shower totally alone. I was casual, said, "oh sure" and then stood outside the bathroom to make sure I didn't hear any big booms.<br/><br/>I read an article yesterday on how we should be encouraging our children to walk more and more on their own, in Christ, from the time they take their first steps. I agree. Though little by little. They don't exist for me or our family unit. They are individuals with gifts that I may or may not recognize. I can trust the Lord to walk with them, as I prepare them to let go of me more and more and rely solely on Him. It's scarey letting go but what kind of mom would I be if I didn't keep that in mind?<br/><br/>Mostly I think this journey in parenting is a walk by faith. I love the wisdom tips I get from others who have gone before or beside me but at the end of the day I must simply trust Him that He is good and His Word is true. These are good thoughts. I faced the 6 year old version last night with the request to take a shower totally alone. I was casual, said, “oh sure” and then stood outside the bathroom to make sure I didn’t hear any big booms.

I read an article yesterday on how we should be encouraging our children to walk more and more on their own, in Christ, from the time they take their first steps. I agree. Though little by little. They don’t exist for me or our family unit. They are individuals with gifts that I may or may not recognize. I can trust the Lord to walk with them, as I prepare them to let go of me more and more and rely solely on Him. It’s scarey letting go but what kind of mom would I be if I didn’t keep that in mind?

Mostly I think this journey in parenting is a walk by faith. I love the wisdom tips I get from others who have gone before or beside me but at the end of the day I must simply trust Him that He is good and His Word is true.

]]> By: diber http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2650 diber Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:02:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2650 That book looks interesting. I'll have to check it out. I felt like I resonated with a lot of what you wrote/quoted. That book looks interesting. I’ll have to check it out. I felt like I resonated with a lot of what you wrote/quoted.

]]> By: mer@lifeat7000feet http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2649 mer@lifeat7000feet Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:38:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2649 It's been awhile since I've read Boundaries, but everytime I do I take something different away with me. I need to pull it out...especially since we're entering some "interesting" years with Will and Sarah.<br/><br/>Thanks, Moriah. It’s been awhile since I’ve read Boundaries, but everytime I do I take something different away with me. I need to pull it out…especially since we’re entering some “interesting” years with Will and Sarah.

Thanks, Moriah.

]]> By: Alicia http://www.pleasepassthesalt.net/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-2648 Alicia Tue, 03 Mar 2009 16:37:00 +0000 http://pleasepassthesalttestblog.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/the-right-to-say-no/#comment-2648 Thank you for posting this - it really hit a nerve in me. I have been thinking a lot about this issue -- the line between having your kids respect you, and giving them the freedom and the right to be themselves -- with things even as small as getting down from your lap or ending a tickle time. It was so helpful to be told that not allowing them to have their voice (or create their own boundaries) in the family is dangerous and will manifest itself in some harmful ways. I've already started practicing this this morning! Thank you for posting this – it really hit a nerve in me. I have been thinking a lot about this issue — the line between having your kids respect you, and giving them the freedom and the right to be themselves — with things even as small as getting down from your lap or ending a tickle time. It was so helpful to be told that not allowing them to have their voice (or create their own boundaries) in the family is dangerous and will manifest itself in some harmful ways. I’ve already started practicing this this morning!

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